...win a photobooth for your wedding reception!!!

Thanks to my new friend and fellow blogger, Krista, over at Becoming Mrs. Dial, I just learned about this awesome contest from thegiggleBOOTH!  Seriously, how fun is this???

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I'm dying for some mustaches on sticks!  The photographer is based in Knoxville, but for a small fee, she'll travel to Atlanta or Nashville.  I'm crossing my fingers that DG and I get lucky!  Our guests would have a blast with this.  I think the winner is chosen tomorrow, so hurry over!

...dress indecision...

Back in July my mom, MOH, and I spent a Saturday trying on dresses.  I Fell. In. Love. with one, but wanted to wait to purchase it until we were officially engaged.  My mom bought the most precious little dress which was our biggest success of the day.  It was so perfect for her that we couldn't let her pass it up.  It's a little less conventional MOB, which I love. Found it at Nordstrom's today. See?
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The other big success of the day was the settling on this dress from Alfred Angelo for the bridesmaids.  Perfect for an early evening outdoor family picnic, wouldn't you say?
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That's what I thought too....at the time.  Now that we've decided to bring the reception inside, I'm having second thoughts.  I know I definitely want something tea-length or shorter.  For an afternoon wedding in May, floor-length is just too much.  And I'm SOLD on this rich fuchsia-y, wine-ish color.  SOLD.  In fact, the color was inspired by this lovely dress from none other than David's Bridal:
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I love the detailing of the pleats.  I'm definitely reconsidering this option.  There's a part of me that would like to have a touch more sophistication in the maids' dresses.  Less sundress, more class...or something.  So I went on a mild spree today looking for something that is an economical choice and has the flirty sophistication and unique details I'm looking for.  Here's what I found:

Love, love this from J. crew...but it's something like $225. No deal.
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Adore this from Ann Taylor, but once again, a little more expensive than I'd like. And I'm not as sure that the style would flatter all of my girls as much as some of the others. Of course, I liked it in the other color better, but the picture hid all the detail.
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I started looking for more affordable options and found this dress at JCPenney. It's cute, but something just isn't as special, you know?
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So I guess the search continues. I'm hoping to stay away from the wedding designers in an effort to avoid the markup that automatically comes with anything in the wedding industry...but I think I've exhausted all the ideas I had. At least I've got a solid idea of what I like, right??? Anyone have a great source for bridesmaid's dresses?

...bachelorette party madness...

It has been so exciting to be doing a little simultaneous wedding planning with my best friend and soon to be maid of honor, EV. A couple weeks back I had the privilege of throwing a action-packed lingerie shower/bachelorette party for her. It was such fun, so I thought I'd share!

I saw an invitation similar to these when I was browsing for ideas online and tweaked it a little to make them my own.
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Next I made the cake!  EV was kind enough to follow behind me to clean up my messes as I was baking.  Such a good friend!  I struggled a little to make the icing as thick as I needed it to be, but in the end, I think it turned out to be pretty good for an amateur.  Everyone raved about how cute and yummy it was, so that was enough confirmation for me!
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Here's the lovely bride posing with the cake.
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And some best-friend-ness! Can't wait for her wedding! Only five weeks to go!
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…engaged…


Two long stories in a row…but this is a really good one.


DG and I had been planning take a trip home to see my family over Labor Day weekend, but as the holiday approached, we learned he would be stuck here in Nashville working. So…I decided to go without him. I hadn't been home since May, so I was anxious to go. He was a good sport and understood. I drove the seven hour trip by myself Friday after work. It was torture. I was tired and cranky and missing my man friend very badly. He called around 11:00 and kept me awake until I arrived safely at midnight. I was grateful. The next day, my family and I decided we'd spend the day hanging out together, so we planned to go see a movie at the new-ish theatre downtown. We'd never been, and Mom and Dad wanted to check it out. So the four of us (Mom, Dad, Baby Brother, and I) were out on the town for the day. Our movie ended around 6:00, and we were hungry, so Dad said, "Why don't we find some place different to eat for dinner? Some place we don't go a lot."

Being in downtown Springfield, I was reminded of this cute little hole-in-the-wall Italian restaurant where DG and I went for our first 'real' date. It was months into our relationship by the time we got around to any sort of romantic evening, but that was just the nature of living 500 miles apart. This particular evening, DG had come to visit for the weekend and desperately wanted to go ice skating. A boy from Orlando, FL who has an affinity for ice skating. Even owns his own skates. Go figure. It sounded like fun to me, so that's exactly what we did.  After two rigorous hours of skating in circles and three nasty falls, I was battered and bruised and HUNGRY. We drove around downtown for a few minutes looking for something good to eat when we passed by Nonna's. I'd eaten there once before, a very long time ago, and knew it was a quaint, authentic kind of place. Right up our alley. So, all decked out in our sweatshirts, jeans, and tennis shoes we walked in to this little establishment.
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It's pretty low key, so we weren't all that out of place. Immediately, DG noticed that you can see down into the kitchen from the second floor, so he requested a table up there. We had a lovely evening just enjoying each other's company and loving being in love. It was perfect. We even talked about how we'd have to make Nonna's a regular stop every time we were in Springfield together.

So…back to my other story.

Being near the restaurant and wishing DG were there with us, I piped up and said, "There's this great little Italian place around the corner that DG and I really like. We could go there." Everyone agreed that Italian sounded really good, so we hopped in the car and headed that direction. Dad dropped me at the street corner to walk inside and make sure there was a table for us before he went looking for a parking space. I opened the doors and saw that the place was virtually empty, so I immediately looked at the waiter-man standing there and said, "You don't have a wait! I'll be back!" I walked back outside to motion to my family, and they drove off to park the car. While I was standing there on the street waiting, I thought I'd call DG to tell him we were all going to eat at our place and that I missed him. Before his voicemail kicked in, he walked out the front doors of the restaurant with a huge grin on his face and just said, "Hi." I was in such shock that it took me a beat or two to even recognize that it was him because he was so out of context.
"You…you're not supposed to be here," I stuttered. He shrugged. "You're supposed to be at work. How did you get here?" I'm pretty sure I repeated those two sentences about 20 times over the 15 minutes it took me to calm down and figure out what was going on. I asked, "Is my family coming?"
"No." He ushered me inside and took me to the same table where we'd been seated on that first date. "Recognize this table?" he asked.
"Uh, yeah. Ok seriously, how did you get here?" There was a lot to take in, so we sat, holding hands across the table for a few minutes while I tried to compose myself.
DG explained that we'd missed out on celebrating our six month anniversary because of our schedules and he had promised to make it up to me, so that was what he was doing. I was elated.
"I brought you a present," he said. After we'd ordered our food, he slid a nicely packaged jewelry box across the table.
"Seriously?" I said. Inside was this beautiful key pendant. (He liked my idea!)
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I loved it. "It's perfect," I said.
We went on to have a wonderful meal and ordered some coffee afterward. We have a thing for coffee. Somehow it's been present in every significant moment of our relationship. I don't know if that's sweet or if it just means I have an addiction, but either way, this was Italian French-pressed coffee and it made my heart happy.
DG pulled a tiny piece of paper from his shirt pocket and said, "I made some notes."
He was visibly nervous, but I thought he was just being sentimental. He read to me his thoughts of the six years we've known each other. He talked about how he spent most of those six years chasing after me and despite all the distractions and discouragement, life brought us together. He said how the last year has been the happiest of his life and how nothing would make him happier than to have me as his partner. Then he told me he loved me and pulled another, smaller box from his jacket.
"I get two presents in one day???"
He just smiled. As a restaurant filled with people turned to look at him, he knelt down in front of me and opened his tiny box to reveal the most perfect ring I've ever seen.
"Um, everyone is staring," I whispered to him.
"I know. It's ok," he said.
At that point he said something about marrying me and I said something about yes I would….I assume. That moment is a bit of a blur. Between the sparkly ring, and the people looking, and his tear-filled eyes, remembering the script word for word was just not going to happen. I'm sure I kissed him, though I don't remember that part either, and he slipped the ring on my finger. As he stood to sit back in his seat, our audience erupted into applause.
"Oh, you have supporters!" I teased.

It was like something out of a movie. He'd been scheming with my family for weeks.  I fell in love with him all over again as he sat there confessing all the little charades he'd put on to pull off the surprise and kept gushing about the ring and why he'd chosen it. I love that he loves it too.  We hung around a little while longer before we left and got in his one-way rental car. He'd cued the CD player to the Keith Urban's Only You Can Love Me This Way, which is the song he wants to use for the first dance at our wedding. I leaned over to put my head on his shoulder while we drove in silence, just listening. I cried as I sat there thinking to myself, "Drink this in. Engrave every detail on your mind. Memorize every thought, every feeling. This only happens once."

When we arrived home, my parents had invited my grandparents over and had picked up some desert for all of us to share. DG had planned to have his mom there as well. She'd bought tickets to fly in, but she was sick and unable to travel. We missed her, but I still loved the fact that at least some of our family was there to celebrate with us.

So yes…I am officially engaged! J And I get to wear this pretty guy around all day, every day, for ever after…
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P.S.
Dear DG,
I've corrected the spelling of your good friend Jimmy BuffetT's name.  My appologies.  It was an honest mistake.  I certainly didn't mean to defame your beloved.
I ♥ you.
Sincerely,
Racheal

…our story…


I suppose it's time I tell the story of DG and me. I've been putting it off because it's kind of hard for me to come up with the words. Plus, it spans nearly six years, so it's lengthy. Regardless…I'll do my best to edit. Here goes…


One fateful day back in 2004, while I was singing with a group from college that traveled each weekend to a different church in the Southeast, DG was introduced to me as the driver of our 15-passenger van and trailer. I spent a good part of two years inside that van. I've gone over those first few interactions time and time again in my mind, but my memory of those events is comprised mostly of sporadic details. My first recollection of DG was sitting at a random McAlister's on a trip in Oxford, MS. That may have been the first conversation we'd ever had. Immediately I noticed that he was smart and funny. We made jokes about the Melba toast crackers. (See? Random.) He drove a handful of other trips through that school year, and we became fast friends. When summer came around, it was announced that DG would be driving our entire summer tour. That was good news.

Throughout the year or so we'd been traveling together, I had suspicions that he was interested in me, and though I wasn't particularly interested in him at the time, I enjoyed his company so much that I wasn't really bothered by it. Our traveling companions would often tease me about the situation, but that didn't stop me from spending time with him. Over the three years that followed, we became really close. There were countless conversations over dinner or coffee when DG patiently listened to me carry on about this or that boy…usually one who was treating me poorly. I was a mess for a very long time, but he stuck it out with me and after I grew-up a little and learned a few lessons, our conversation evolved from being centered on me. Our friendship became a deeply meaningful part of my life. Most of the time we spent together was just the two of us, alone, deep in conversation. It generally felt like a date. DG usually played the gentleman and paid. I was careful to manage my boundaries, so as not to give him the wrong impression, but eventually I found myself confessing things. I'd talk to my girlfriends about how DG was the kind of person I saw myself with and complain about why couldn't I just find a guy like him who wasn't my friend. (I had put him in the friend category, big time, and there was no changing my mind.) I even remember telling the guy I liked at the time about DG and how I wished I had feelings for him. (Denial much?)

Fast-forward a bit to the spring of 2008. I'd been really evaluating my life and where I was headed for a while and decided that I needed a serious change. Moving home to Springfield, MO to be close to family seemed like the best decision on every front, so that's exactly what I did. Strangely, I was met with resounding support from everyone I knew, except DG. He seemed to be the only one so reluctant to say goodbye and send me away. I guess now I know why. In the months leading up to my move, we made it a point to spend time together when we could, which quickly turned into dinner or a movie or whatever nearly every weekend. I found myself thinking about him more and more, but I was moving home soon, and it simply didn't make any sense to talk about it, risk the awkwardness, and potentially ruin a really good thing. When I moved in May, there were a lot of things unspoken and even more unsorted thoughts and feelings bouncing around in my head.

Fast-forward a little more to November when I came back to Nashville for our college homecoming. I made it a point to spend as much time with DG as time would allow because it finally occurred to me that I had spoken to him only twice or three times since I'd moved. He was one of my closest friends, and I didn't want to take that for granted. Somehow things were different in November. I found myself pining for his attention and getting jealous when he was busy hanging out with other people. He was pretty much all I talked about the whole time I was in town. We had dinner together the night before I left to go back home. In that couple of hours we talked about relationships and our hopes and dreams and so much more. Suddenly, I was thinking about how compatible we were and how similar our passions and dreams were. It was a very different feeling than what I'd been experiencing before. Our conversation that night was so intimate that I once reached across the table and held his hands as I made my point. That was when I knew for sure that something was going on. Because in the past I was very careful not to show any sort of physical affection. But it happened naturally and by accident, almost as if I didn't have any control over it.

We shared a long (and awkward!) hug before he left that night and I headed back home the next morning. Something changed in his mind that night too because next came a series of phone calls that started out every few days, which turned into every day for an hour or so, and then every night for hours on end until we couldn't stay awake anymore. The whole time I was trying to process my feelings…making sure that they were genuine and not just a product of my being single and advantageous….and I waited on him to have the courage to be honest with me about how he felt. One Sunday night in January, a little after midnight, he called and our conversation led us in a different direction.  He'd agreed to hop in the car with a couple other friends and come all the way to Springfield to see me the following weekend. I think the pressure of knowing he'd be seeing me in person again caused him to speak up.

"So, we're friends, right?" he asked.
"Of course we are," I said.
"Interesting."

That was how the conversation began. I had to convince him that it was safe to share what he was thinking, but after a little coaxing, he was honest and open with me about what he was feeling. I think I finally hung up that night around 5 AM. He'd said the kindest, most heartfelt things to me, and I confessed that I'd been thinking about him for a very long time. We knew that being at a distance would present its challenges, but having already known each other so well, we also knew it would get serious very quickly. While he was with me the next weekend, he was already telling me that he'd fallen in love with me. That seemed scary at the time, but it only took me a few days to realize that I'd found everything I'd ever hoped for in him…and more. I knew the emotional connection we shared was like none other I'd ever experienced. It was day seven of our "official" relationship, and I was certain we'd spend the rest of our lives together.

We trucked back and forth on the seven hour drive from Springfield to Nashville over the course of the first four months. In some ways, it was torturous. In others, I think all that time spent talking on the phone created a fundamental bond between the two of us that will become the foundation of our marriage. After being home for almost exactly a year, the pieces fell in place for me to move back to Nashville so that we could be together. We reveled in being together every day. It was heaven.

Now, I count myself blessed. He has exceeded my every expectation. He is everything I ever wanted. And he is mine. We've really known since that Sunday night in January where all of this was headed, but that didn't diminish the joy I felt when this man…the one I love to the depths of my very soul...the one who far outshines any man I could have designed for myself…knelt before me last Saturday night and asked me (officially) to be his wife.

More to come…

…dreaming of monograms…


I keep planning to put up some well-thought, organized posts about practical things and planning and such…but I think it may be time to give up on having the neatly packaged blog I'd imagined. My wedding inspiration and the things I find myself wanting to write about are not very precise. They come and random times in no logical sort of order, so I think it might be time to just give in to the natural process.

I'm so excited about this idea that I wanted to share! I have always envied those brides who are able to pull off a magnificently cohesive theme in their weddings while finding the balance between clever and cheesy. I've really hoped to find some sort of unifying idea that DG and I can carry out through the whole of our wedding. One that feels like "us". We started talking long ago about getting coordinating (read: non-matching) tattoos. I like the symbolism of such an idea, but I knew it would be difficult to come up with something that didn't seem trite. One day, however, it occurred to me that if I could find the perfect idea to design our monogram around, it could be really cool to use that design element in our tattoos. Thus my search began. And this serious of random thoughts followed...

First I found this monogram that I absolutely loved (via Project Wedding):
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The bride and groom carried their shoe theme all the way through the wedding.  You can see all the images by photographer Joel Flory here: http://blog.joelflory.com/says/wedding/julie-matts-wedding.html  His work is amazing. 

I thought it would be so cool to carry some similar theme throughout our day.  But what was significant to us?  Next I saw a magazine add for these fantastic pendants from Tiffany & Co:
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Gorgeous, no?  So the wheels were turning.

DG and I have often discussed this little dream I have of going to the Ponte Vecchio in Florence to place our lock on the bridge as so many couples have done over time.  You can read more about the tradition here.  We've promised to do it someday.  The first gift DG ever gave me was the padlock and key I received for Valentine's Day.  Thus, between the meaning behind the symbol and the aesthetics of having an image to design around, I thought it would be great to play up this lock and key theme for the wedding.  Now I find myself searching the internet for inspiration, and it certainly does abound.  We'll probably be sending our save the dates soon, so I need to get to work on our monogram and a general theme for all of our print materials.  SO EXCITED! 

Hopefully I can find or come up with some graphic version of an image like this, and we'll start there.
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